Author: Dr. Mia Cary, CEO & Change Agent, Cary Consulting
What is a critical attribute needed to lead today? A massive abundance of empathy.
And what is one of the best ways to build trust? Shared experiences.
With both of these facts in mind consider creating a moment of shared humanity and lightheartedness before jumping into your next meeting agenda. Or even better yet, create a standing initial meeting agenda item where sharing on a personal level is invited. Keep in mind some team members, including some of those that identify as fiery red (Insights) or dominant drivers (DiSC), may not be excited to participate in these quick shares. That is okay, let them pass.
Rules of Engagement
Invite a participant to pick a number between 1 and 247.
Use the list below to select the quick share prompt based on the number selected. Note some prompts are more serious, some are more lighthearted. An expanded list that is continually added to can be found here.
As folks introduce themselves (or say hello if already met) they are invited to also answer the selected prompt or question.
Anyone can pass at any time.
Go around once or more at the beginning of the meeting, when you come back from a break, and/or at the end of the meeting.
Humanizing Quick Share Prompts
What is one thing that brings you joy?
Who is one of your role models?
Favorite way to eat a potato?
Ocean or mountain?
Favorite vacation spot?
Good book you’ve recently read?
Your walk-in song?
What is our claim to fame?
Your one song dance party song?
Road trip or air travel?
Do you prefer US or international travel?
An early memory?
Cat or dog person?
Lake or ocean person?
What do your friends tell you that you’re good at that surprises you?
Favorite swimming stroke?
Favorite card game?
Favorite board game?
Favorite way to celebrate your birthday?
What is your favorite number, and why?
What is the best thing that happened to you last week?
When is your birthday and how do you like to celebrate it?
Are you typically early or late?
Favorite spot to read?
Favorite TV show or series?
Are you a people watcher?
What do you hope never changes?
What is the best thing that happened to you last year?
Salty or sweet snacker?
Favorite salty snack?
Hard or soft pretzels?
What is one of your superpowers?
What do you have doubts about?
Favorite way to enjoy nature?
What is a risk worth taking?
Who inspires you to do better?
When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?
What is your go-to system, tool, or app for managing tasks?
What is one way you manage stress?
What is something you’ve been meaning to do but haven’t gotten around to?
Who is a favorite relative?
What is a leadership characteristic that inspires you?
What is a leadership style that inspires you?
What is your favorite color?
What is your dream car?
What do you take for granted?
What is a favorite way to relax?
What type of music do you enjoy?
What is one thing you are grateful for right now?
What is something a ton of people are obsessed with, but you just don’t get the point of?
What question would you most like to know the answer to?
Why did you decide to do the work you are doing right now?
If you could turn any activity into an Olympic sport, what would you have a good chance of winning a medal for?
What gets you fired up?
When do you feel truly “alive”?
What is something you’ve been meaning to try but haven’t gotten around to it?
One good thing that happened so far this year?
One thing you are looking forward to this week?
Favorite breakfast food?
What is your typical morning drink?
Do you prefer coffee or tea?
What is your favorite season?
What is your favorite holiday?
What are you most looking forward to in the next 10 years?
What is the best thing that happened to you last month?
What is one of your traditions?
What is something you think everyone should do at least once in their lives?
What is the most impressive thing you know how to do?
What is the most annoying question that people ask you regularly?
Who is one person that inspires you?
If you didn’t have to sleep what would you do with the extra time?
What could you give a 40 minute presentation on with absolutely no preparation?
What is the favorite piece of clothing you own/owned?
Favorite superhero growing up?
A current challenge you are managing?
A current joy that is top of mind?
One thing that helps you to focus?
What is the most annoying habit other people have?
Do you prefer to exercise indoors or outdoors?
What do you hope never changes?
Are you a morning person or a night owl?
What would you rate 10/10?
Favorite type of cake?
Favorite meal of the day?
Favorite way to cook/eat eggs?
Gum chewer or no?
How many languages do you speak?
Where did you grow up?
Favorite place you have lived?
What job would you be terrible at?
Favorite place to drive to?
Dunkin’ or Starbucks?
Pancakes or waffles?
Do you identify more as an introvert or extrovert?
Do you love or not love Humanizing Quick Shares?
Do you prefer to swim in salt water, fresh water, or neither?
Are you a joke teller? If so, lay one on us.
A favorite road trip you’ve taken or are planning?
One item on your bucket list?
Favorite sea creature?
Do you currently have, or have you had in the past, a mentor or mentee?
Current pet situation?
What movie title describes your life?
A favorite pet from your childhood?
What are you absolutely determined to do?
Favorite sport to watch?
Favorite sport to play?
What is worth spending more on to get the best?
What type of art do you enjoy the most?
Are you a fast or slow driver?
Would you rather go hang gliding or whitewater rafting?
Are you the first or last to arrive at a party?
Are you first or last to leave a party?
Where would you spend all your time if you could?
What is one thing that recently inspired you?
Are you a risk taker?
What is the most heartwarming thing you have ever seen?
What website do you visit most often?
What skill do you want to master?
What is your definition of leadership?
Who has impressed you most with what they have accomplished?
What are you most likely to become famous for?
What takes up too much of your time?
For you, what is one aspect of a positive culture?
What is the most relaxing place you’ve ever been to?
What is one way your workplace walks the talk on being inclusive.
Do you listen to podcasts? If so, a favorite?
What do you wish to know more about?
Do you prefer dress shoes or tennis shoes?
How do you relax after a hard day’s work?
What is the best way to start the day?
What age do you wish you could permanently be?
What have you only recently formed an opinion about?
What is one of your ‘hot buttons’?
What is the luckiest thing that has happened to you?
What are some things you have had to unlearn?
Do you wear a watch?
What is your go-to time keeping device?
What app do you open the most often on your phone?
Have you ever played Pokemon Go?
What are some small things that make your day better?
What is your ideal way to spend the weekend?
What is the best single day on the calendar?
What is the biggest lesson you NEVER learned?
What celebrity sighting makes you smile to remember?
What is the best thing you got from a parent?
What do you spend the most time thinking about?
What do you want your epitaph to be?
What is the most immature thing that you do?
What is the most memorable gift you’ve received?
Still water or seltzer?
What city would you most like to live in?
What do you hope your last words will be?
What is the best thing about you?
What TV or YouTube channel does not exist, but should?
Are you a fan of napping?
What do you like most about your family?
What is a favorite smell from your childhood?
What is something you will NEVER do again?
What is the most eclectic food you have ever eaten?
What are you most likely very wrong about?
What is something you never seem to finish?
What irrational fear do you have?
What is one or two of your favorite smells?
What is a favorite hobby?
What mistake do you keep making again and again?
What piece of advice would you give your younger self?
Where is your happy place?
What is your joy juice?
What is one interesting fact about you that no one in this meeting knows?
What would be the most amazing adventure to go on?
If you had to make one rule that everyone had to follow, what would that rule be?
What do you wish your brain was better at doing?
One thing that if you could you would tell your 12 year old self.
In what situation or place would you feel the most out of place?
What do you strongly suspect but have no proof of?
What strong opinion or belief do you have that is not important in the grand scheme of things?
There are two types of people in the world, what are the two types?
What personality trait about yourself do you most like?
What would you do if you knew you were going to die in one day?
What would be some of the most annoying things about having you for a roommate?
What do you want to be remembered for?
What is something that has happened or that someone has said to you that made you change how you view the world?
What do you regret not doing or starting when you were younger?
What excellent piece of advice did a parent or grandparent give you?
What is special about the place you grew up?
What challenging thing are you working through these days?
If you had to change your name, what would you change it to?
What lifestyle change have you been meaning to make for a while now?
What have you created that you are most proud of?
What’s the dumbest thing you’ve ever done that actually turned out pretty well?
Which of your scars has the best story behind it?
What did you think you would have grown out of but haven’t?
What is a personal ‘rule’ you never break?
What is your favorite personal ‘rule’?
What is the best or worst piece of advice that you ever received?
What small gesture from a stranger made a big impact on you?
What bends your mind every time you think about it?
What is the title of the current chapter of your life?
What is something you’re certain you will never experience?
One thing you are grateful for right now.
What was the best compliment you ever received?
What responsibility do you really wish you didn’t have?
What is something that your friends wouldn’t believe is true about you?
What chance encounter changed your life forever?
What fact are you resigned to?
What are you really good at, but kind of embarrassed that you are good at?
What mystery do you wish you knew the answer to?
What is the best and worst thing about getting older?
If you could have a never-ending candle that smelled like anything you wanted, what would it smell like?
What do you consider to be your best find?
Do you garden?
Do you prefer vegetable or flower gardens?
What trend or fad do you hope comes back?
Favorite way to eat a potato?
What is top of mind for you right now?
Have you ever participated in a flash mob, and if not would you want to?
What is one ‘happy’ and one ‘crappy’ that is currently happening in your world?
What is one ‘sweet’ and one ‘sour’ from the past week?
What is your favorite Halloween costume?
What is one family tradition?
What aspects of your work do you most enjoy and why?
What gives you the most meaning, satisfaction and joy at work?
What aspects of your work energize and excite you?
What are you most looking forward to in your career?
What is the next thing you want to cross off of your career bucket list?
What’s the most daring thing you’ve done in your career?
What’s the most influential and impactful piece of career advice you’ve ever received?
What is one challenge you have been grappling with?
What was the highlight of your week?
How many siblings do you have and where are you in the order of arrival?