Dr. Mia Cary, CEO & Change Agent, Cary Consulting

Unf23kwithable (adj.) – When you are truly at peace and in touch with yourself, and nothing anyone says or does bothers you, and no negativity or drama can touch you.


Unf23kwithable is my 2023 word of focus and intention. I shared it with the 300 fine folks that joined me at VMX for Lasso and Leadership, and they approved.Β 

Putting it out there is part of my accountability plan so unbeknownst to them, they all became my personal accountability buddies. With that same manifestation intent, I’m posting it here and will pin it to remain top of mind.

Like everything from radical candor to a growth mindset to living in the present moment, unfuckwithability is a skill that can be cultivated and developed.Β 

It’s a work in progress.Β 

Some days I nail it and others, not so much.

Unf23kwithability is not about being uncaring or selfish.Β 

It’s about self-awareness.Β 

It’s about knowing, prioritizing, and caring so much about what matters most, that focusing with a deep intensity comes naturally and all the unimportant distractions fade away.

It’s also about consistently making time to rest, recharge, and reframe.Β 

It’s knowing play belongs everywhere, that lightening up is wise, and that laughter is good for the soul.

It’s about being strong so you can be part of the solution instead of part of the problem.

Because it’s a choice.

And you? I’d love to hear what others have as their 2023 word of focus and intention.